|Allison A. Mayer captured our homecoming and all of these special people so beautifully!|
Today marked our tenth day home as a family! Many of you have asked how Tyson is doing and how our family is adjusting, so hopefully this post will offer you some insight. First of all, I want to thank all of you who prayed for Tyson to feel safe around our dog, Kya. His response to her presence has improved drastically! When she comes into the room or if she gets too close, he will still sometimes scream in terror, but these occurrences are becoming few and far between. Continued prayers in this area are appreciated! We are confident that soon Kya will be a non-issue.
I am incredibly impressed by how easily Noah, Liam, and Tucker have accepted Tyson with open arms. They are very fond of the little guy! Their faces lighting up when he waves hello to them is adorable. Noah is a natural with Ty after having spent two weeks together in China. Seeing Liam play the big brother role has been especially sweet to me. Tucker adores Tyson and is very gentle with him. You should hear his sweet "I'm-talking-to-a-baby-voice!" At the same time, I think Tuck might feel a bit uprooted from his "baby" position in the family. When Tyson is not in my arms or on my lap, Tuck is quick to jump into that space. It is good to be loved!
Ryan and I missed so many of Tyson's firsts over the past 19 months. However, I was thinking today about all of the firsts I have experienced since meeting him 3 weeks ago.
He cut a baby tooth.
I pushed him on a swing.
We took a bath together.
I taught him how to go up and down a slide.
He went to the park with his brothers.
I received my first unsolicited kiss.
He looked into my eyes as he fell to sleep.
I had his intake meeting with First Steps.
He rode on my hip while I vacuumed.
I resisted the urge to scratch my nose after he fell asleep in my arms.
I taught him the signs for more, please, thank you, stop, and milk - and he is using them!
I fell in love with his daddy again. This has happened each time we have been given a new son.
I thought of his nanny who is surely missing him but was so happy he had a family.
And today - I cried for Tyson's first momma, who will not see this precious boy grow up.
My heart aches at the thought of her living today, maybe even with Tyson's birth father, and wondering what happened to their son. I have prayed that God will grant them peace in a dream - that He will give them a vision of Tyson in our home, surrounded by his daddy, brothers, and me. I pray that it gives them lasting peace for the decision they made.
|Photo credit: Allison A. Mayer|
The last ten days have been busy and wonderful and difficult and amazing. We came home to a stocked fridge and pantry thanks to my dad and Danette! Not only did they take care of Liam and Tucker for 2 weeks, but they really went above and beyond in every way. Our neighbor cut our grass twice when we were gone. What a gift! My friend cleaned our house for 3 hours the day we came home - we are so grateful! Another friend set up a meal train for us, and not only did we have dinner the first three nights we were home, but we have continued to have them every Monday, Wednesday, Friday, and Sunday since then. These meals are continuing through early July! What a gift to our family!! Not having to worry about meal planning and preparing has helped tremendously, especially since Tyson is super attached to me these days (another praise!). So again, thank you from the bottom of my heart those of you who have already brought meals and those who will bring them over the next 3 weeks. I also want to thank my mother and father in law for asking me to make them a grocery list in order to pick up necessities while they were passing through town. What a relief to have our fridge and pantry stocked while I focus on our children! To everyone who has encouraged us and prayed for us, thank you will never be enough. Your intercession on our behalf means everything!
Tomorrow Tyson has his first appointment with a cleft team in Indianapolis. I appreciate your prayers as I fly solo for this appointment. Tyson will see numerous specialists over the course of 4-5 hours, and after our last medical appointment experience in China, we will need your prayers. We hope...
...that Tyson will cooperate with the various specialists who will examine him.
...to find out the course of action proposed by the team.
...that Tyson's hearing is within normal limits.
...that we will learn about speech therapy options outside of First Steps.
...that we will leave with confidence in the proposed treatment plan.
...that we will feel peace about working with these specialists over the next several years.
|Photo Credit: Shannon Gill|
I am going to miss Tyson's smile. I know I will - just like I missed Liam's first smile. At the same time, I am very excited for him to learn how to express himself verbally, as his motivation to use sign language has shown me how eager he is to communicate more effectively. This is going to be a long road, but I am so thankful that I get to be his mommy. It is both a privilege and an honor! He is such a gift to my life.